Friendship

As I've gotten older my inner circle has fluctuated. I am lucky enough to have a handful of friends that I am super close to. And I'm also lucky enough to have had such solid friendships in high school that they carried right on over to my twenties.

For me, my friendships have gone through the same ups and downs as any romantic relationship. (I've even had a bff end in us not being friends anymore). I've struggled to be the best that I can be to each friend at some point. It almost feels like growing pains. As each of us grows as a person we might begin to clash with one another. Where we both might have once loved the same music or had the same political views we might not have that in common anymore. It can be tough trying to gain that balance back.

As each of us have dived deep within a relationship we might have spent so much of ourselves in that relationship that our friendships were left neglected. I know I was guilty of it and in retrospect can see how that might have made others feel. Going through that however, has made me much more understanding to those who have gone through it too.

It can be hard when everyone is growing and changing so much at the same time. I went from being an avid meat eater to giving it all up. What were fun, teasing jokes became not so fun once repeated. But that is what can happen when we get so used to things being one way and then having it all change so quickly. There is an adjustment period. New friends, hobbies, jobs, can all take some getting used to. But eventually you know you found the group for you when we are all still there for each other. No matter the physical distance, who we become, or how busy our lives might get.

I once let the drama interfere. It's hard staying solid and not getting enthralled in it. I hope to have matured as time has passed and now remind myself to not get sucked in. Let it go. When the dust clears I'll see the ones I love. My solid group.

I am so proud of who each one of my friends are. I hope they know that. Each one brings something unique to our group. It may sound corny but I am blessed to have every one of them as friend.